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The Four Mistakes Women Make That Keep Them from Success

If you missed my recent teleclass on this topic, here is a written recap of the mistakes and tips on how to avoid them:

Mistake # 1 – Not having a vision of your success

You may also call this not having goals, or not having an intention for your life. I am referring to the big picture view of what you want in your life.

It’s easy to focus on what you don’t want: no stress, no boring job, no hassle, no money. When you don’t know where you want to go, you won’t know how to get there.

How to avoid mistake # 1 – Change your thoughts around and focus on what you do want in your life. Get very clear on what success means to you. One exercise that can help: Take a blank sheet of paper and write “My life filled with success includes” at the top. On the rest of the paper, write down everything that means success to you. A few examples could be wealth, happiness, travel, new car, creativity, acknowledgment. The nice thing about your vision for success is that you get to choose what you want it to look like. Success is individualized for everyone.

Mistake # 2 – Not staying focused on your vision and living in the world of overwhelm

Women are experts at multitasking, and this can be one of your barriers to success. Distractions do get in your way, but there are ways of creatively managing them. You can live in the world of overwhelm when you are worried about something in the future or fretting about something that happened in the past. You do not stay focused on the present moment or the task at hand.

How to avoid mistake # 2 – You can stay organized and feel that wonderful sense of accomplishment when you ask yourself these questions: “What is the most important thing I need to do right now that will have the worse consequences if I do not get it finished?” and “Does this activity put me closer to my goal of success?”.

 Mistake # 3 – Living with limiting beliefs

Beliefs are those deep down inside-of-us messages that we have acquired through our experiences, upbringing, education, culture, gender, and other things we are not aware of. Beliefs can be very subtle and can show up as negative self talk like, “Women do not make good financial vice presidents.” or “I hate sales because I don’t want to be a pushy salesperson.”

These are examples of limiting beliefs because they do not support the vision you have of success. They lead to more negative self talk and inertia.

How to avoid mistake # 3 – First, realize that you have them. Spend a day just counting all of those little negative voices in your head. Be aware how they are stagnating your journey to a successful life. Write one belief that supports your vision of success, like “I believe I am strong and resilient.” Or “I believe my leadership style is effective and collaborative.” Keep these beliefs alive by making affirmations out of them and say them frequently or creating another structure to be reminding of their strength. I love the phrase, “Energy flows where your attention goes.” Put your attention on beliefs that support what you want.

 Mistake # 4 – Not having enough extreme self care

Extreme self care is from the work of another life coach, Cheryl Richardson, in her book The Art of Extreme Self Care.  Not taking care of yourself can affect your energy, creativity, and your health. Extreme self care is putting yourself first and getting over those feelings of guilt and selfishness that come from limiting beliefs. (“I feel guilty when I take a vacation day.”)

How to avoid mistake # 4 – Put yourself first and begin today to practice self care. This can include things like; sleep, healthy food, exercise, saying no, relaxing, having a routine, and practicing your spirituality. Make a list of ways you want to take care of yourself and then pick one to begin today. Ask “what do I need right now?”

Which of these four mistakes is having the biggest impact on not reaching your vision of a successful life? You can choose to create your successful life by implementing your positive action today.

Best of success on your success!

 

PS – If you enjoyed hearing how you can avoid these four mistakes, you will love the upcoming CD, transcripts, and workbook that will be coming out soon. Stay tuned!

 

Where is Jeanette?

 Nov. 1^st – Beginning the SpiritRich© Platinum Mastermind and Group Coaching Program with Laura West

Dec. 2,3,4,5 – Attending the International Coach Federation Conference in Orlando

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Have a vitality-filled day!

Jeanette